The most dangerous thing you can do in difficult times is to worry about things you can not control. Unless it is your job to do so, you will accomplish little by thinking about the government, corporate greed, conspiracies, mass stupidity, our broken education, health, prisons and banking systems and on and on. Instead, focus on yourself and honestly assess what you can do here and now each day. Have the humility and simplicity to work on those things and your progress will be great. Remember, as Tolkien said, ”little by little one travels far”.
Own a mirror? There is a friend there. There is also an enemy. He is your “frenemy”. He can help you with the truth or distract you with lies. There is an old saying that “the truth that hurts and later heals is better than the lie that comforts and later kills”. Here are some simple things to do to avoid delusions and the fruitless efforts they produce:
Analyze- Socrates said at his trial “A life unexamined is not worth living”. Make an inventory of your most pressing problems. List all the problems you can think of and then highlight the ones you can do something about. If your budget and headcount has been cut, that may be a given to work with rather than a problem to solve. Forget about what is out of your control for now.
Prioritize- Start with the one highest return, biggest impact problem that you can influence.
Nurture your creativity- Pick one problem and schedule ten minutes of quiet time to yourself to brainstorm solutions on paper. Write a list of twenty possible actions on a notepad as quickly as you can. If you have a team, involve them. Do not monitor yourself at this stage, simply write as quickly as you can and list twenty actions. Then go back and begin writing your plan. Your first step will likely come from this list.
Journaling keeps you grounded in reality- Have you noticed how many successful people keep journals? After Watergate, many advisors tried to get elected officials to cut down on their journals because of the certainty of the logs getting subpoenaed if there was a problem but journaling among the successful has only increased since then. While you work on the above selected problem, document all progress and the lack of progress as well.
A two minute version of this habit that is just as helpful is a “Progress Log”. Buy a simple notebook and jot down everything you have accomplished each day. Write the date at the top of each page and jot down four or five activities undertaken for each day. They can be trivial such as, “called three vendors and requested bids” or significant such as “met with CEO at ABC and received a letter of introduction to the CEO at his sister company”. The idea is to log progress and stay grounded in reality. This habit combats the tendency to fall into delusions that lead to either cockiness or despair. Either trap is a can ruin your career, business or family. For many, to do lists are requirements for organization and success. I use them myself. But a log is just as important. Keep your log in the same place and fill it at the same time each day. Your desk or night table, the morning or the evening, it does not matter as long as you are consistent. Your log will help you form the habit or introspection, analysis and documentation.
Work on what you can control. Attack one problem at a time with creativity and you log your progress. This will provide you with the assuring confidence that you have done all you can and all that you should.
More than success, your peace of mind is well worth these modest changes in your habits.